What Healing Looks Like
Hey BAE’s!
Healing isn’t linear.
That’s something I repeat to myself and my friend A LOT. There are days when we feel like we can do anything and other days, we feel so defeated. Guess what? That’s okay!
Two years ago, I made a decision to end a relationship with someone I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. To look back on how much I’ve grown from that experience, I really can’t help but thank God for giving me the discernment to let go.
Take Your Time
Healing isn’t something you can rush, as annoying as that is. I have had days full of frustration just asking God “why do I still feel this way? I thought I was over it (the hurt).” This is just a part of healing. Your feelings are valid no matter how much time has passed. You are allowed to take your time to heal and you won’t be alone in the process. God knows what you went through and has His arms wide open for you.
I am very much over the relationship but things occurred that I am definitely still healing from, but rather than focusing on how slow my progress may seem, God reminds me of how He’s worked in my life so far and how good He’s been.
From feeling bitter towards love and relationships to loving love all over again. From having unsteady boundaries to establishing healthy, consistent ones. From feeling ashamed and unworthy to knowing that I am redeemed and deserving of love.
“He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies.”
Psalms 103:4 NLT
Whether you are only at the beginning of your healing journey or you are nearing the end of it, I am so proud of you for pushing through. Little progress is still progress and God is with you every step of the way.
No Room for Comparison
Healing looks different for everyone. For me, healing really began when I was able to talk about it. My experiences and the shame I felt was something I kept in the dark and it felt heavy, because I thought that I would be judged or that I’d be perceived differently. In reality, after talking to God about it and then slowly opening up to close friends that I trusted, there was so much weight lifted off of me.
Now that these things were revealed, the enemy didn’t have a hold over me, over the negative hidden thoughts and feelings I had. I had loved ones that prayed with and for me, drowning out the lies of the enemy.
I know that this isn’t for everyone and sometimes we heal silently because we’re just not ready for it to be out in the open, we need to guard our hearts a little more, and/or we’re protecting our boundaries.
Your healing is your own. There’s no right or wrong way, so there’s no need to compare your step one to someone’s step five.
If you’re in a season of healing, I’m rooting for you! God’s rooting for you and He’s right beside you. I pray that you all will lean on Him, not only as your source of comfort, peace, and joy, but as your healer, redeemer, the lover and pursuer of your soul.
Keep going, you’re doing great!
Praying for and loving you always,
Angeli <3